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TheScribe1 63M

8/11/2020 2:06 am

Thank you for sharing this. The beauty of the Lifestyle is that there are NO hard and fast rules. The terms of a relationship are set by the people involved. I know some so-called "purists" will say this or that is "wrong", but they are simply trying to give credibility to their own opinions. I hope you have a long and happy ownership x

My Words Are A way Into Your Mind...Be brave And let Me In.


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
8/11/2020 3:55 am

Nice writing.
You are talking about being a sex slave.

There are more styles of being a slave.

There are also people who call themselfs slave, have a relation with their Dominant/ Master, living together.
The base of such relation is Authority/Leadership, Transfer orientated.

He is in charge, because they both, want and need that as a basis of their Dynamic.
This is not about sexual acts.
it is about Leadership, caring from the Dominant/Master for his slave, he wants her to feel safe, to be able to grow, in their relation, as he does too.

He is in charge, because they both need that, as a basis for their relation/dynamic.
They have talked about all and everything, what they want and need, how their life has been, all what happened in their lifes,
out of such a dynamic.
She gives him Authority over her life and body, from out of herself, there is no force.
She decide every day again, to surrender to his rules, because that makes her very happy and stable.

If some rule does not work, in their dynamic, they talk about it, and see if they can change it, of what ever is needed to make it work, for them.
it is a relation, in wich he has the final say, in wich he makes the deciscion.

She wants to make him happy , makes his life easy not more complicated.
In all aspects of his life, not just the sexual acts..

Also, it is possible that there are some areas that the Dominant does not have Authority over, because they both agreed on that.
Because that "Total" from Total Authority Transfer, (TAT) or Total Power Exchange, (TPE)
is not put in stone, the whole relation is organic, things in life change, so their dynamic, too.
A slave in a TAT has a job, cares for elderly, does volenteers job, or any other thing ,that makes her feel fulfilled, ánd, she always obeys his rules.

When you are married, you still are married when you go to your job, or visit friends, family.
That is how a TAT also works.
The rules can be, about her clothes, her hair, her make up, or not, her bedtime, when and what she eats…
Some are very strict, in a TAT, and some are more lay back.

It is al about what THEY BOTH want. AND NEED. to feel happy and fulfilled.
Oh, and ofcourse SM is how they have sex.play.time

The most submissives are sexual submissive only, within a vanilla/"normal" relation. In a socalled equal relation.

Only kinky sex in the bedroom, only, with Maybe some rules, routine, rituals for the submissive, outside the bedroom.
The sub has the veto right! always., to stop all and everything, she can even stop before it starts...
She has the controle.!
He, the d is allowed to act in the frame within her rules, rule....
d/s sex play time. with a beginning and a end. role play.

They are equal in the rest of the relation, they argue about what to buy or what to eat or what not.
There is a lot of underground tension, argue, power struggle, manupilation going on, both ways.
Or, there is just the d/s, like friends with benefits.. is also possible

Thát is not the case in a Total Authority Transfer dynamic
He is in charge and she follows, obeys.
Her opinion has value for him, he wants to know what she thinks, about all and everything
Maybe she sees things he did not, and so she can help him...

BUT< hé decides and she obeys.

So, just an other view on being a slave, or submissive.
play or living it.

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atouch_01 67M
312 posts
8/11/2020 4:42 am

Very insightful


Incognitomaster 52M
717 posts
8/14/2020 7:21 am

I do agree with you, Jen. Still, rosaenaluin has some valid points about the extension of the definition.

When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

__Yogi Berra



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