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MustangMaggie 60F
0 posts
12/30/2018 5:01 pm
To All Doms - Communication Beyond


Hello Sirs,
I met a Dom this weekend. He seemed so perfect. But....He does not like to text or call his submissive(s). WTF How are we suppose to get to know each other and him to mind fuck me if he does not keep in touch on a daily basis?? He says a "true submissive" is always ready when her Master wants her. Seriously??

Please tell me your thoughts on communication between sessions and meets my dear Sirs out there.

-Your Maggie

unicornlover6969 40M
4 posts
12/30/2018 5:15 pm

Seems a bit odd, I can understand no phone call at the very start but after a few days of communicating there should be a stronger connection. Not necessarily regular as it's also fun to make your sub wait for that contact.

I think you're just not compatible which is fine, there are plenty of doms out!


eliza1234 49F
1301 posts
12/30/2018 5:25 pm

I apologise for commenting as I’m not a Sir, but alarm bells would be ringing loudly if someone I met didn’t want to communicate with me.

Firstly, I’d wonder why. Is he married and doesn’t want his wife to see text alerts flash up on his phone?

And secondly, in any relationship, and perhaps more importantly D/s ones, communication is vital. I can understand this not being daily as life can be busy but very regular is a must. A true Dom would understand this surely?


hermang67 56M
830 posts
12/30/2018 6:19 pm

Communication is paramount.... paramount .... No relationship can exsist without it


MustangMaggie replies on 12/30/2018 6:26 pm:
Thank you! I so agree!

MustangMaggie 60F

12/30/2018 6:26 pm

Thank you so much for your responses.
This Dom I met is divorced with three children. He has told me he only seeks married woman. He plays a Bull with five couples. Sometimes the husband is involved, sometimes not. It pleases him when he can make couples more intimate with each other because he has helped them open up.
My husband would not be involved. This is my submissive journey. The Dom I match with will be the only Dom I see and I hoped I would be his only submissive and focus on our connection. When this Dom lacked in communication, it seems that he just wants this casual. That's not what I want. I sent him a text this morning and I have not received a response. I really don't have patience for being rude.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
12/30/2018 6:37 pm

    Quoting eliza1234:
    I apologise for commenting as I’m not a Sir, but alarm bells would be ringing loudly if someone I met didn’t want to communicate with me.

    Firstly, I’d wonder why. Is he married and doesn’t want his wife to see text alerts flash up on his phone?

    And secondly, in any relationship, and perhaps more importantly D/s ones, communication is vital. I can understand this not being daily as life can be busy but very regular is a must. A true Dom would understand this surely?
I suspect he does not want to be contacted, unless he does the contacting at times when it will not distract or detract him from other involvements. Communication has to be two way and be open. No restriction if it is to work long term

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


MustangMaggie 60F

12/30/2018 7:06 pm

My Dom friends, thank you so much for your mentoring advice. I will continue my search for my match.
- Your Maggie


steelcager 61M
1996 posts
12/30/2018 8:31 pm

Hi Maggie,

All who have written have made valid points.

There needs to be communication at first to establish the groundwork of the relationship. There could be several reasons for not wanting to communicate, but he needs to inform you if it is temporary or a regular occurrence. In my case, my communication can be during certain times as I have three children living with me, one young adult and two pre-teens. My time to myself is limited. Perhaps he has some similar situation with either children or a significant other.

You need to determine if he is worthy of your submission, and he needs to know if you will satisfy his needs. This can only happen with communication. If part of his dom style is ignoring his sub as part of punishment, it's not something that he should be doing as you do not yet of that kind of relationship. Truthfulness and trust are paramount.

In my case, I like to communicate at first, discreetly by e-mail, communicate our kinks and vanilla lives, getting comfortable with each other...that way a first lunch or coffee meeting will be more at ease. I think you need to exercise caution here.


CawintShard 68M

12/31/2018 2:02 am

"Where there's a whip, there's a way."


MustangMaggie 60F

1/1/2019 6:52 am

Happy New year to all my Dom friends and to yours!


sarahfux 24F

1/5/2019 3:45 pm

this site is full of silly old buggers that call themselves doms to get sex, They wouldn't meet anyone in real life so they use the chararde for weak females that have no spine.. Better off without him


vkindmaster 56M  
2954 posts
1/6/2019 7:15 am

Without communication between meets there is no relationship only scening. This can work for some people but clearly not for you. I suspect you are not short of credible offers....


MustangMaggie replies on 1/14/2019 5:19 pm:
Actually...I am.

HiddenGardener 67M

1/20/2019 1:28 pm

That would tell me I'm nothing special or important to them. And you holding a winning hand, just move on to the next one lined up outside your door.


fourthandgoal 68M
31 posts
1/21/2019 12:26 pm

move on....



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