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QueenSassy66 57F
35 posts
12/20/2018 9:28 am
Questions to ask before play

What would you like to experience/feel during our play?
What would you NOT like to experience/feel during our play?
What are some signs (verbal, physical, etc.) that the scene has gone or is going in a direction that you do not want?
Do you have any wants or needs that I should pay particular attention to before, during, or after our play?
How do you feel about mid-scene negotiation?
How do you feel about crying during play?
Do you have any injuries, recent or otherwise, that may affect our play?
How will those injuries potentially affect our play?
Is there anywhere that you would not like me to touch you and/or hurt you?
What are your aftercare needs?
Do you have any triggers that I should be aware of/watch out for?
What does it look/sound like when you are triggered?
If I trigger you, how should I respond in that moment and afterwards?
What does it look/sound like when you are nearing the point where you would like to stop play?
Do you go non-verbal or experience headspaces that inhibit communication?
How would you like to communicate in the event that you go nonverbal?
Would you prefer to negotiate in the “Everything except A, B, and C is on the table?” style or in the “Only X, Y, and Z are on the table” style?
Do you prefer to use plain communication (e.g. “I need a break from the cattle prod, but impact play is still fine”) or colors (e.g. red, yellow, green) or another safeword system?
Directly before the scene: How are you doing physically?
Directly before the scene: How are you doing emotionally?
Directly before the scene: Are there any new wants or needs that have popped up between when we negotiated and now?
If something goes wrong and there are negative consequences during or after our play, do you think you will feel comfortable letting me know (in person, via text or other messaging system, through a 3rd party)?
If something goes wrong and there are negative consequences, how would you like me to respond? (assuming that I am aware that something went wrong)


jenny14 75T  
90125 posts
12/20/2018 9:55 am

Queen

Welcome to Bloglandia

A wonderful first post


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


msfunfor 63M
10618 posts
12/20/2018 12:10 pm

hello ,
it seems that barrage of qestions would take any excitement
out of most .......

be good
M

.


Mountainchild 72M
126 posts
12/20/2018 5:02 pm

The truth shall set you free.


QueenSassy66 57F
18 posts
12/21/2018 5:58 am

Thank you everyone.

I know a lot of questions can be overwhelming. I dont require it be filled out in one sitting nor do I expect it to be.Some are serious things to think about ie crying.

Im pretty serious about communication and print out copies to go over with the person in person.I keep a copy that has notes on it in case there is another play day. Im good with reading people butt,its handy to have until you have done hands on a couple times at least.

I did another one of these types of things with My Sadist on a video chat for an upcoming scene in January. I will try to post it.


Tbill1 58M
1795 posts
1/4/2019 8:46 am

Hi, are you married?

andy



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