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EricaLScott 89F  
93 posts
5/27/2020 4:22 pm
"What's in it for me?"


I think one of the most frustrating things about being a bottom with a singular fetish (mine is being spanked) is, unless you happen to find tops who share the same enthusiasm for what you enjoy, you more often than not encounter people who don't understand what your deal is.

"You just like being spanked?"

"Yes, I love it."

"And then what?"

"Um... aftercare? Lotion? Cuddling?"

"That's it? Then what do I get out of it?"

(Heavy sigh.)

Are you familiar with FetLife? It's a social media community, a sort of Facebook for fetishes if you will. Yesterday, in frustration, I lamented the dearth of men who purely love spanking and put out the question my male readers -- Guys, when you give a woman a spanking, what's in it for you?

Wow. My inbox blew . So far, 52 comments and still counting. So, rather than try explain myself here, I think I'll just post a few of the most wonderful and articulate responses I received. These are real responses from real spanko men.

"For me it’s about the energy I get from the person I’m playing with. That transcends everything... it’s such a beautiful thing. Hell, even time ceases exist during a session with a person whom you have good chemistry."

"Spanking a willing woman is one of my greatest pleasures in life. It is its own reward. It can be compared a magical dance or a very interactive sporting activity. When goes right, time constraints disappear and both parties turn into happily quivering, sometimes laughing, sated animals."

"(Blinks) I... I don't understand. Who in bloody hell hears "Please spank me" and their reaction is "What do I get out of it?" Are they okay? Do they need to see a doctor?"

"I like sex with my kink as much as the next guy, but spanking just for spanking's sake is an art to be cherished. I'm a very giving top but the "what's in it for me" attitude shows a clear lack of appreciation for every nuance that is involved in spanking."

"What's in it for me? Simple. You get to spank a beautiful woman for her pleasure... and yours!"

"Wow, what a question. A woman going over your lap and giving you the privilege of exposing her bare bottom is giving you a huge gift. Paddling her bottom until it is red and sore is a true act of giving. I've had the pleasure of spankings dozens of women over the years and if the more they enjoyed the experience the happier I was. The best spankings make both parties happy."

And finally, my personal favorite, from a gentleman I love dearly and whom I've known for years, played with many times, and no, I never blew him for his efforts:

"Seeing that you brought it , and quite honestly I’ve been waiting years ask, what’s in it for , Erica? I mean really...you expect me just enjoy the pleasure of having a fun role- with you, the honor of placing you over my lap, the gift of getting pull down your panties see your beautiful naked bottom across my legs, and the thrill of spanking you as you squirm, bounce, and cry out under my hand, ending with an incredibly long embrace from an amazing woman, to just be enough? Really? Well, okay. I guess I’ll just have to live with that because clearly I’m not getting ANYTHING else from that exchange!"

So there you have it, guys. This is how spanking men feel, and why they don't feel I'm taking advantage of them by taking all the pleasure and giving them nothing in return. The is their return. Because they love it as much as I do.

Why don't more of the men on this forum get this?

EDIT, 5/28: Wow. Crickets. No comments and barely any reads. I guess I'm in the wrong place.

TheBargee 68M
16315 posts
6/4/2020 10:34 am

That is the most bizarre question! And the responses you got on Fet just further demonstrate that whoever asked it clearly has NO understanding of the pleasure of having an upturned bottom over one's knee and hearing the words: "Please spank me"


billybob3693 60M
36 posts
6/17/2020 8:59 pm

You just need to find a partner who enjoys a giving spanking as much as you enjoy receiving it is more then just the smack it goes so much deeper a connection between two .


billybob3693 60M
36 posts
11/8/2020 8:38 pm

You have a beautiful bottom and they turn such erotic shade of red . I would love to hear the sound of the slap of swat of hand against your nice cheeks and the warmth growing with each one over a time


socalmale1 72M
85 posts
10/13/2021 5:13 pm

I agree. Nothing nicer than pure bare ass spanking. Hard to find a woman who can take a long spanking.


NathanRi 24M

5/10/2022 5:54 pm

I can spank you, wanna talk on this blog post?


billybob3693 60M
36 posts
11/11/2022 2:45 pm

the pleasure of spanking a beautiful woman is something only a few understand. There must be trust and respect.


pgm2023 41M  
1 post
10/2/2023 4:47 pm

I've never given spanking much thought until reading your blog post here. Now I'm pretty intrigued, maybe even fascinated. Thanks for sharing. I think I may understand where you're coming from...I think for a lot of men, anything sexual requires ending in an orgasm. I'm not that way (don't get me wrong, I love orgasms as much as anyone), but for me sex is so much about exploration and feeling and experience. Sites like this should exist and cater specifically to people with our attitudes. It's unfortunate that seems not to be the case for you.


EricaLScott replies on 10/3/2023 5:36 pm:
That's a very nice comment to my post. Thank you. ♥


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