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PerfectPussy86 37F
0 posts
11/15/2019 1:20 pm
Love, Honesty & Judgement within a BDSM relationship


One thing I want to make very clear in this blog is that all these things are MY thoughts. It is how I see and think about things…it doesn’t mean it is the way I think everyone else should be. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions so before I get a barrage of comments telling me I am wrong, or I should do things this way or that way, or that this isn’t acceptable in the BDSM world, just remember that there are no rules or laws about how 2 people conduct a relationship. We are all too quick to judge how others live their lives…so if you do want to make a snarky comment or criticise me, go ahead, say your worst because it will have absolutely no impact on me.

So on with the post…. I like to show my Master every day that I love him. To me, just saying the words isn’t enough, I see it as my duty to show him. I will show it with an action like a photo or other words or even an emoji (he knows which one I am thinking about).

It is not my job to judge him, same way that he does not judge me. Our conversations are always open, and he can easily see when I am hiding something or not being truthful when I will be scolded. It is something I have struggled with my whole life. I have always thought that I needed to adapt to make myself more acceptable, irrespective of my own values and wants. I wanted to become the person I thought the man wanted, instead of being true to who I was and am as a human being. If you had read my first post, you will have already seen an example of this.

I started changing this mind set when I met my Master. He has a way to looking at me and talking to me which just makes me want to bare my soul to him…and you can’t hide, you can’t pretend, and you cannot but reveal your true self. And you know what, that is bloody scary! He love’s me, the whole me, it’s the good, the bad and the ugly. I have dark moments where I doubt myself, and him, and his feelings for me. He will not have done anything to make me feel like that but for some reason it happens, and he won’t stand for it. It is insulting for him so I need him to tell me exactly what he thinks. This always put me back on the straight and narrow and reminds me of my place in this world, which is his side.

I think love means different things to different people. I grew up believing in a Disney kind of love. It seemed polite and easy. The reality? It is even better than I thought. It means being truly accepted and being able to let yourself be vulnerable because you’re in your safe place. I have often told my Master that the safest and happiest place for me is in his arms, or just being as close to him as possible. I love him with all my heart and will do as much as I can to please him. In return, I get a Master who looks after me, loves me and makes me the happiest I have ever been.

These are just a few more of my thoughts 😊 As always comments welcome.

DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
11/15/2019 2:04 pm

It is always best to maintain who you are. Nothing wrong with self improvements. a dominat can help you by encouraging and correcting as you go. What attracts a dominant to a submissive, is who she is. Not because she needs to change. She does not need to.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


PerfectPussy86 replies on 11/15/2019 11:23 pm:
I absolutely agree....now anyway. And it is one of the things which makes me love my Master so much because he does accept me 100%. I still get nervous about sometimes being so honest with him about my feelings and being so open but I’m working on it, and it’s my battle to conquer.

EnergyMagic 60M
61 posts
11/15/2019 3:10 pm

I agree with DancingDom. I get pleasure from creating situations that enable a submissive to be more openly who she actually is. We all have unexpressed desires and unexplored opportunities. What a treat it can be to be encouraged to go deeper, to find what else might be possible.


PerfectPussy86 replies on 11/15/2019 11:24 pm:
I am so excited about discovering more about myself and my Master...we already have so many plans and ideas, my future looks very exciting indeed

boringbloke60 63M

11/15/2019 3:56 pm

Love, Honesty & Judgement within a BDSM relationship I would have thought that was fundamental


PerfectPussy86 replies on 11/15/2019 11:25 pm:
It absolutely is I think, although having spoken to a few people, I don’t think it is always the case sadly.

nnjpaulasm 58T

11/15/2019 8:21 pm

Great blog entry.


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
11/16/2019 5:41 am

I loved "a Disney kind of love".......there is nothing better than that.



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