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Coming Out To Family |
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Let your freak flag fly. Fuck anyone who judges. They are just jealous.
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I have to go with don't ask don't tell.....hell, it took them 10 yrs to get over me being a lesbian
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I would have to put a bow on her and sing Mery Christmas to me. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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just set everyone done and tell them you are into the lifestyle..and it is what you want for yourself. and tell them you know that it's not for everyone out in the world.. and that being a part of it makes you feel happy.
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4/19/2020 4:52 pm |
From years of working with confidential information. I have an instilled habit of keeping my mouth shut about projects and any information shared with me. I don't discuss information with people to satisfy their need for curiosity.
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My family already know I am Bisexual and I have committed suicide, so if I brought that up, I am sure it would go down more as "At least he is in a relationship". And if not, I would look each one in the eye and remind them of each of their faults that I do not ever mention, and that the glass in the house I live in is already stained. As for the holiday, what about Festivus, ya know, "For the rest of us!" 
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It's none of their business and wouldn't care or be surprised. I'm the black-sheep of the family anyways. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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My children know because my late wife (their mother) was my submissive and my ex-wife was my submissive. They did not know until they were adults.
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poetess I too would g with "Don't ask, don't tell" A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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4/19/2020 7:51 pm |
My daughter knows what kind of relationship I seek. We watched fifty shades of BS together and I pointed all the things wrong with it, which was pretty much the entire movie.
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I think most families have an idea of what bdsm is... And honestly i think most people see it as 50 shades of grey.. So no need to unpack the whole play bag...
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That is so heartbreaking. They brought you into this world and should at least show you some respect for being strong enough for being the person you are, unless you happen to be Lucretia Borgia of course.
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And in more ways than one, the cultural issue of being a woman. The hypocrisy would have us be either an affront to feminists or an affront to the traditional attitudes of being a lady and not doing certain things ever. I can relate which is why I am glad it came out eventually
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4/20/2020 10:22 am |
Think about all the other family drama where nobody acknowledges the real truth. This is no different. Sit them down, tell them that you have a wonderful, if unconventional relationship and they should not ask about anything they do not want to know about...and then reiterate that they do NOT want to know about your personal life.
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I once told my oldest sister, because she was into the play role sm thing. The moment i told her how and what i needed, she did not want to have to do anything with me, anymore. I am also the black sheep, even from before.... But now even more, because what i want is really sick, the can handle the play in the bedroom thing... But wanting to really life the Power/Authority Transfer..? Even when i told them, that it is like being gay, not every gay man wants to humb every other man! it is still about personal preference... By that time, they did not take anything in, anymore... It is totally useless to talk or try to explain this orientation, as i see it. to vanillas.
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I could not vote, because my choice was not in it...
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Given the area/background from which they came, and their generation also, I guess my mother would not have understood and my father would have thought it quite cool, so long as I did not abuse the women (in any way other than their preferred choices.)
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Given the area/background from which they came, and their generation also, I guess my mother would not have understood and my father would have thought it quite cool, so long as I did not abuse the women (in any way other than their preferred choices.)
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I once told my oldest sister, because she was into the play role sm thing. The moment i told her how and what i needed, she did not want to have to do anything with me, anymore. I am also the black sheep, even from before.... But now even more, because what i want is really sick, the can handle the play in the bedroom thing... But wanting to really life the Power/Authority Transfer..? Even when i told them, that it is like being gay, not every gay man wants to humb every other man! it is still about personal preference... By that time, they did not take anything in, anymore... It is totally useless to talk or try to explain this orientation, as i see it. to vanillas. At least my story was like that, it was as if my mother would have preferred me being lesbian to what I desired because she was of the bra burning ilk lol
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Think about all the other family drama where nobody acknowledges the real truth. This is no different. Sit them down, tell them that you have a wonderful, if unconventional relationship and they should not ask about anything they do not want to know about...and then reiterate that they do NOT want to know about your personal life.
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Agreed
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I have to go with don't ask don't tell.....hell, it took them 10 yrs to get over me being a lesbian
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I would have to put a bow on her and sing Mery Christmas to me.
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My family already know I am Bisexual and I have committed suicide, so if I brought that up, I am sure it would go down more as "At least he is in a relationship". And if not, I would look each one in the eye and remind them of each of their faults that I do not ever mention, and that the glass in the house I live in is already stained. As for the holiday, what about Festivus, ya know, "For the rest of us!" Yes absolutely, I am not of any faith solely
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infinitepoetess, Well, wanting a 24/7 Totall Authority Transfer, (wich means, the D, could also be a woman,) The Dominant-Master is in charge, all the time. That has not so much to do, with having a D/s. i believe... Most vanillas i know of, are capable to understand the excitement of having a sexual Dominant-submissive 'experience'... in the bedroom, so to say. A M/s TAT is not about that kind of experience in a relation. You understand the difference? and i agree with what you say. My way of looking at relationships, power games in those mostly vanilla relations...?! It is such an totall other dimension. it is like they are from a totall other planet. Having soo much restriction in their believe /sex system. mindframe....
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The thing is, vanillas, believe they are so openminded, that they want to know.. can handle it all... wich will backfire on them and you. So if you dont want to open up, on that kind of private stuff, they are even more curious about you... Soo terrible tiresome. Thats why i dont like to make new vanilla friends... The always think they have a right to know... about stuff they are not able to handle, at all. A loss - loss situation.
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infinitepoetess, Well, wanting a 24/7 Totall Authority Transfer, (wich means, the D, could also be a woman,) The Dominant-Master is in charge, all the time. That has not so much to do, with having a D/s. i believe... Most vanillas i know of, are capable to understand the excitement of having a sexual Dominant-submissive 'experience'... in the bedroom, so to say. A M/s TAT is not about that kind of experience in a relation. You understand the difference? and i agree with what you say. My way of looking at relationships, power games in those mostly vanilla relations...?! It is such an totall other dimension. it is like they are from a totall other planet. Having soo much restriction in their believe /sex system. mindframe.... I have an M/s tattoo on the back of my neck. Hurt the worse of any of my tatts
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just set everyone done and tell them you are into the lifestyle..and it is what you want for yourself. and tell them you know that it's not for everyone out in the world.. and that being a part of it makes you feel happy. 
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When my wife and I started exploring the scene we joined Fet, and discovered there my sister and brother-in-law, her sister, and three members of our church. We knew that the rest of our family included many judgmental gossiping busy-bodies, so we prioritized a mutual discretion agreement,
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I did the don't ask thing, unless you are prepared for the answers : -) No one has the right to say that what I do ( and who I do ) is wrong, but I also don't have the right to shove my (hot sexy throbbing fun) way of life down other peoples throats.Fun though it might be to think about it
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infinitepoetess, wow, even a tatoo? in your neck? My! god! that must have hurt, real bad. And now you are no longer in that M/s relation? This goes beyond your questionnaire.. How did you handle that? You dont have to tell, if you dont want to share.. i understand that...
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4/21/2020 2:26 pm |
My family would be shocked to find out I was into vanilla
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When my wife and I started exploring the scene we joined Fet, and discovered there my sister and brother-in-law, her sister, and three members of our church. We knew that the rest of our family included many judgmental gossiping busy-bodies, so we prioritized a mutual discretion agreement,
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I did the don't ask thing, unless you are prepared for the answers : -) No one has the right to say that what I do ( and who I do ) is wrong, but I also don't have the right to shove my (hot sexy throbbing fun) way of life down other peoples throats.Fun though it might be to think about it
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infinitepoetess, wow, even a tatoo? in your neck? My! god! that must have hurt, real bad. And now you are no longer in that M/s relation? This goes beyond your questionnaire.. How did you handle that? You dont have to tell, if you dont want to share.. i understand that... My husband and master of 10 years died last October. To say I was devastating would not be enough to describe at first. I am coping much better now, but it is traumatic beyond all comprehension at first,
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My family would be shocked to find out I was into vanilla
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infinitepoetess, i can believe that! It must have been real hard on you... and still is, maybe.... on some days..... one day at the time, he? RTDomDaddy hahaha, nice answer! 
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4/22/2020 7:40 am |
In the words of a song sung by the great Billie Holiday: There ain't nothing I can do Or nothing I can say That folks don't criticize me But I'm going to do Just as I want to anyway And don't care just what people say If I should take a notion To jump into the ocean Ain't nobody's business if I do If I go to church on Sunday Then cabaret all day Monday Ain't nobody's business if I do If my man ain't got no money And I say "take all mine, honey" Ain't nobody's business if I do If I give him my last nickel And it leaves me in a pickle Ain't nobody's business if I do But I'd rather my man would hit me Than follow him to jump up and quit me Ain't nobody's business if I do I swear I won't call no copper If I'm beat up by my papa Ain't nobody's business if I do Nobody's business Ain't nobody's business Nobody's business if I do
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infinitepoetess, i can believe that! It must have been real hard on you... and still is, maybe.... on some days..... one day at the time, he? RTDomDaddy hahaha, nice answer! I can only describe the sheer fear a slave feels when that tie is broken after such a long term relationship. Coupled with grief it was debilitating for a time - about 3 months. He always said 1 year in M/s was like 7 dog years...I believe he was right
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4/25/2020 10:34 am |
My family;y would be surprised to find out I was not a Dominant
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4/29/2020 1:13 pm |
I love this answer Gee mail
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My family;y would be surprised to find out I was not a Dominant
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5/31/2020 8:07 am |
Definitely just own it. Better to be 100% truthful and upfront. My slave always has a collar/choker on. Maybe not the leash attached on Christmas
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6/3/2020 4:19 am |
Definitely own it, love the idea of the collar and leash!
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Definitely just own it. Better to be 100% truthful and upfront. My slave always has a collar/choker on. Maybe not the leash attached on Christmas
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6/3/2020 8:02 pm |
Maybe just the leash attached at home on Christmas ?
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so now that you've been betrayed by someone what are you going to do, hide it from them?????? how many years????? the rest of your life????? they know part just tell them or your really going to need a shrink and someone to pay for it.
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