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aliljaded 49F  
5166 posts
7/11/2019 3:50 am

There is a joke about BDSM and it goes like this: BDSM, where no means yes and pineapple means stop. It makes consent sound like a convoluted mess but really and truly it is simple.

*A dominant must earn consent as well as their partner(s) submission each and every day because at anytime the submissive can freely choose to no longer submit or give their consent for whatever they choose.

*Always know and respect your partner’s safewords. They may have one for a ‘yellow light’ meaning you are pushing things and then the STOP word. When the stop safeword is used it means stop, now! It does not mean stop in a few minutes because you are close to orgasm or any other reason. This safeword is revoking consent, period, end of the story.

*When you look around there are so many people that say things like “What Daddy Wants, Daddy Takes” or “Mine anytime, anywhere” and yes there is truth to those statements when the d and s types in those partnerships have discussed beforehand and the submissive has consented to allow certain things to be ‘taken’ or what things are specifically made available ‘anytime, anywhere’.

*There are some who say that once a submissive says yes to something the first time, this is consent for this activity again and again. This is simply wrong and should be a red flag for everyone on the s-side of life. I know this is oversimplified but there is truth in this, just because they sucked your baloney pony six months ago, it does not mean they still consent today and you can whip out the wang for sucky-sucky.
*When it comes to consent/non-consent play, consent must be negotiated and received BEFORE play happens. These types of scenes MUST be thoroughly discussed as part of the preparation for them.

*Until a D/s partnership and those involved know each other intimately and very, very well dominants must go above and beyond honoring just safewords. Respect all of an s-type’s words, for example, if they say: stop, wait, hold on, just a minute, I cannot move, or anything along those lines, stop the play and make sure they are fine and dandy. Do not expect them to feel one hundred percent comfortable using their safeword in the beginning (remember submissives do not want to disappoint their dominants) and you have not practiced safeword skills together plus the relationship is new so as their dominant you do not know their reactions instinctively so it is indispensable that you respect all their words.

*Consent is sexy, so dominants be sexy and always make sure to have your partner’s full consent and if your partner uses their stop safeword, stop immediately because they are revoking consent.


*Please remember CONSENT is the difference between ABUSE and BDsM. If your consent is violated you are not being RESPECTED.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”

baudeight 76M
322 posts
7/12/2019 4:35 am

if 8 is naked and on its knees it has consented and is there to be used and enjoyed however you wish to.

keithandrew1967 51M
722 posts
7/11/2019 11:35 am

yes no means no period !! and echo the sentiments about ur posts ur the best blogger in blogland period!

drmgirl622 64F  
10488 posts
7/11/2019 9:10 am

No always means "No" !

charlesmartel00 54M  
170 posts
7/11/2019 9:02 am

It's absolutely axiomatic to me that I be worthy of her complete trust. She must feel safe to the point of putting her very life in my hands, knowing instinctively that I will allow no harm to come to her. Whether that takes safe words, negotiations, whatever. I'm perfectly willing to forego a pleasure for the sake of building that trust.

Kahlan2 82F
231 posts
7/11/2019 7:50 am

You seem to choose so many very good subjects and they are right on. I wish all Doms would read and understand and follow these kinds of posts. It would make the subs life's so much safer and we could relax and trust so much easier. When a Dom violates that trust, it makes it that much harder for the sub to give our trust to the next one.

DancingDom 69M
12701 posts
7/11/2019 6:48 am

I consent to read your posts everyday.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"

CurvySubBBW 46F  
230 posts
7/11/2019 6:06 am

i love your posts

i think this needs to extend to basic courtesy as well.. bother to find out if the sub is owned before you try and dominate her

Claimed - not for sharing

gafferh 63M
27 posts
7/11/2019 6:05 am

Absolutely right... for many reasons a sub may not consent to something today, they'd usually have no issue with. Mutual respect for their limits and honoring them.

itrainnewbies 64M
9 posts
7/11/2019 4:53 am

consent is the core of bdsm

aliljaded 49F  
2090 posts
7/11/2019 4:48 am

Always play Safe Sane and Consensual & Have FUN!

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”

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