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aliljaded 49F  
5166 posts
7/7/2019 4:36 am
Some Things I've Learned

* You can be a kick-ass submissive and not own a single piece of lingerie
* You can kneel in slip-on Converse just as well as you can in heels
* Wanting to be wanted can lead to seriously poor decision-making
* You can love someone and not be a match
* You deserve as much pleasure as they do
* Liars and cheaters will always lie and cheat
* Not everyone likes the spotlight; it’s ok to live D/s very privately
* It’s ok to make things like rope bondage and tickling hard limits; it’s ok to make anything a hard limit
* Dominants can use a safeword or otherwise stop an activity
* Submissives can walk away; you don’t have to be ‘released’ from shit
* Moving quickly rarely leads to longevity
* Your gut is never wrong; listen to it
* It’s ok to not look like a fetish model; most people don’t
* Sex can feel good even without orgasming
* Squirting orgasms are a bit of a parlor trick, and they don’t always feel as good as other types of orgasms
* If the effort isn’t there, in the beginning, it never will be
* You can defer to someone and respect them as a leader even while watching Netflix and eating steak nachos with your fingers
* Dominants can get sick and be huge babies and still be worthy of obedience and respect
* Not every Dominant is an executive with an expense account
* Submissives can make more money than their partner
* You don’t have to say ‘Daddy’ to feel it in your bones
* Toxicity isn’t gender specific
* You can’t always educate yourself out of raised-with-it bias, but you have to try
* It’s ok to demand more for yourself; having standards solidifies self-worth
* Strength is a process
* Self-esteem requires active management
* Submission doesn’t cease to exist when you’re single
* Submission doesn’t just end when you hit 30 or 50 or 70
* You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do
* You can change your mind
* You can use your voice
* You have to use your voice


"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”

slut4abuse2014 48M/48F  
26 posts
7/7/2019 8:09 am

love it and so true x

drmgirl622 64F  
10488 posts
7/7/2019 6:46 am

A great list.....

504bassett 66M
717 posts
7/7/2019 6:37 am

Now I have nothing to "blog" about. Great advice for anyone.

I'm just sayin'.

DancingDom 69M
12701 posts
7/7/2019 5:43 am

All good points.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"

MineSirsSub 46M/43F  
1572 posts
7/7/2019 5:39 am

Love, love, love this so much 💕❤️💞♥️

aliljaded 49F  
2090 posts
7/7/2019 4:48 am

Fantastic 💋

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”

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