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Sunday Vinyl
Posted:Oct 20, 2019 6:52 am
Last Updated:Oct 20, 2019 7:16 am
* Mickey Thomas ~Fooled Around And Fell In Love~ Classic Acoustic Hits Live
* Ryan Adams ~ To Be Young (Is To Be Sad, Is To Be )~Heartbreaker
* Billie Elish ~ When The Party's Over ~ When We All Fall
* James Brown ~ Superbad ~ The Singles Volume 7
* Billie Elish ~ My Strange Addiction ~ When We All Fall
* Prince ~ The Beautiful Ones~ Purple Rain
* Matchbox 20 ~ Can't Let You Go~ Exile On Main Street
* Dave Matthews Band ~ #41 ~ Crash
* Florence The Machine ~ Days Are Over~ MTV Unplugged
* Bruce Springsteen ~ Brilliant Disguise ~ Tunnel Of Love

*Brilliant Disguise*

I hold you in my arms
As the band plays
What are those words whispered baby
Just as you turn away

I saw you last night
Out on the edge of town
I want to read your mind
To know just what I've got in this new thing I've found

So tell me what I see
When I look in your eyes
Is that you baby
Or just a brilliant disguise

I heard somebody call your name
From underneath our willow
I saw something tucked in shame
Underneath your pillow

Well I've tried so hard baby
But I just can't see
What a woman like you
Is doing with me

So tell me who I see
When I look in your eyes
Is that you baby
Or just a brilliant disguise

Now look at me baby
Struggling to do everything right
And then it all falls apart
When out go the lights

I'm just a lonely pilgrim
I walk this world in wealth
I want to know if it's you I don't trust
'Cause I damn sure don't trust myself

Now you play the loving woman
I'll play the faithful man
But just don't look too close
Into the palm of my hand

We stood at the alter
The gypsy swore our future was right
But come the wee wee hours
Well maybe baby the gypsy lied

So when you look at me
You better look hard and look twice
Is that me baby
Or just a brilliant disguise

Tonight our bed is cold
Lost in the darkness of our love
God have mercy on the man
Who doubts what he's sure of

~ Bruce Springsteen
This Is Funny
Posted:Oct 19, 2019 4:00 am
Last Updated:Oct 20, 2019 9:10 am
You like doing this to me....
Posted:Oct 19, 2019 3:36 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2019 12:28 pm
You like doing this to me, don't you? You get off knowing that you affect me. Knowing that your stare stirs a warming sensation in the center of my being. Those onyx eyes awaken something primal. A hunger that only you can feed.

You relish in the thought that my body begs for your touch when you are near. My skin prickles, screaming out for you; begs. Please, please, please feel my fevered flesh!

You delight in making me wait. Watching as I squirm and pout. The woman that is used to getting what she wants is reduced to a pleading mess of whimpers. Bargain after bargain escapes my mouth.

You luxuriate in watching my panties dampen as you tease me. In studying my thighs as they glisten with my need for you. My cunt drips with arousal; arousal you can smell as it wafts through the air.

This is what you love. The foreplay. The lead-up. Making me wait. And wait. And wait. Until I am nothing but desire and lust, coiled up tightly. Ready to explode under your skilled hand, only on your command. The control is just as satisfying for you as the climax, if not more so. Isn't it?

The Hand of a Dominant
Posted:Oct 18, 2019 8:31 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2019 9:34 am
The hand of a Dominant is an extension of their heart, mind, and will. It is used to communicate with a broader range and often to greater effect than mere words alone. The hand of a Dom is employed to lead and guide, caress and massage, reassure and calm, tease and please, coax and lure, tie and torment, correct and punish. More is communicated the look and touch of a Dom than most any collection of mere words could impart.

A Dominant is often of few words, yet the most competent among us are excellent communicators without exception. They not only know how to convey a point but also are fine-tuned receptors. They sense verbal and non-verbal cues in others more acutely and accurately than most. The oft portrayed image of the dispassionate and stoic Dominant, lording themselves over a submissive, commanding performance with barked orders, a sneer, and glare is far from reality. While many Doms may not necessarily be gregarious nature they do not simply sit idly back. They survey and absorb all that is happening around them, take it in, read people and in so doing, hone their own communication skills.

Submissives often refer to their Dominants as mind readers because of the seemingly uncanny manner with which they anticipate and react to a sub’s unspoken thoughts or moods. Sometimes it seems as though the Dom is responding to feelings a submissive has not yet even acknowledged to themselves. There is no ESP involved here. A competent Dominant is simply well attuned to the non-verbal signals a submissive is sending, even when they are doing so unconsciously.

How is this possible?

When it comes to interpersonal communication, most people think of spoken words as the primary means of exchanging information, ideas, and feelings. But in fact, only seven percent of actual face-to-face communication exchange occurs in the form of words themselves. Remove the words entirely and more than ninety percent of all communication still exists in the form of vocal inflection and body language known as kinesics. Kinesics includes things like eye contact, facial expression, gestures, posture, touch, proximity, and poise.

Most good and competent Dominants have a natural and intuitive sense of kinesics. They are highly attuned to the body language of their submissive and perhaps more importantly have learned to use kinesics to appropriately respond in kind. For example, when a submissive is expressing defiance, a gentle but firm hand to the shoulder and an unwavering gaze is often all that is required to calm and bring them to their knees. When a submissive is feeling nervous or inadequate, gentle cupping of a cheek and a smile can bring peace and confidence. When a submissive is feeling sensually closed off, a fingertip traced slowly down the spine and a whispered, “Mine” can transform them into molten lustful lava. When a submissive is feeling playful or randy, hair firmly grasped, a hand placed to the throat, or a firm slap to the ass combined with a lecherous leer can them into a state of lathered submission-ready for anything a Master has in mind. And of course, in extreme cases, the hand of a Dominant is there as an implement of correction and even punishment.

Ultimately the hand of a Dominant is employed to guide a submissive through and beyond the internal struggles they experience with surrender. This guidance is far subtler than many perceive. It is not about spankings and orgasms but rather about gently coaxing and luring a submissive onwards, navigating deftly past insecurities and obstacles to achieving their highest state of surrender. In so doing, a bond of love and respect is created that leaves the submissive powerless before their Dominant in adoration and desire.

So the hand of a good and competent Dominant is an extension of the loving guidance they provide to a submissive that allows them to be all they possibly can; their most submissive selves but also their most authentic selves. The hand of Dominant cradles a submissive in protection and care places them on a pedestal and elevates their being to its highest state.

Rare and precious are these competent and caring Dominant hands and fortunate are those few to come under them.

It's Complicated...
Posted:Oct 18, 2019 4:30 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2019 10:25 am

She is...
Posted:Oct 18, 2019 2:46 am
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2019 5:52 pm
The kind of sweet that makes you forget about the sour.

That beautiful strand of Christmas lights that shocks the shit out of you.

A cold mountain stream on a muggy day.

A quadruple stuff Oreo. With milk.

The verse you can’t stop singing.

Winning the lottery when you were too bitter to .

A smile too beautiful to bear.

Your kind of crazy.

A cataclysmic collection of perfect imperfections.


* Unknown
Posted:Oct 17, 2019 3:18 am
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2019 8:48 am
There are things I need. I need the rules. I need the structure. Sometimes I desperately need the pain. I need the pride in his eyes like I need the blood in my veins. I need to kneel at his feet and know that I want him to do whatever he needs. I need to know he’s present. I need to be his safe place. His release. I need to feel his desire. His need for me. I need to crawl if he wishes and be the one who makes him forget the world. I need to be in his arms at night and I need to be…. His. I need his decisions. I need his confidence. I need his passion. I need his anger and I need his joy. I need to feel wanted and I need to be loved. I need to be a priority. I need to give to him every single part of myself.
But I need him to earn it.

Recognizing a Respectful Dominant
Posted:Oct 16, 2019 7:02 am
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2019 9:42 pm
How do you deal with finding a Dom who respects that women ARE actually people? I often find myself struggling to fully commit to a D/s relationship as I always seem to end up with men who believe it’s just their right to make me do things, without caring that a Dom should also earn his sub’s respect and treat her well?

It’s a problem, one I’ve learned - over the years - to identify pretty quickly. Even then, I’ve broken things off with a number of men. (By the way, this ‘release’ bullshit? As in asking to be ‘released’ from your dominant? Oh, hell no. This is a RELATIONSHIP, and if the relationship isn’t working you end it.)

You do not need permission to end a relationship.

It’s one thing to be told, “You’ll do as you’re told,” but it’s quite another to be told that in regard to something you’ve expressed is a limit. Yes, I’ll do as I’m told within the boundaries we’ve discussed and agreed upon, absolutely! If it’s something I’ve already expressed is a no, then no… I will not do as I’m told. And I’ll be leaving now, all the best to you.

Does he disregard your feelings about something? Laugh or say, “Well, we’ll see”? Does he only want to get together for the sex/play…and really have no interest in hanging out with you otherwise? And he may say the right words (he’s no fool, this one!), but what is actually happening? Do you go out? Do you know his friends or family? Or are you ordered/commanded to do things throughout the day, and only see him when it’s time to ‘submit’?

A lot of people like to play and ONLY play. And some people are open to play while they keep an eye open for The One. I’m not like that. I want a normal/vanilla-looking relationship (to the outside world); where I eventually know his friends and family… where we go to dinner and movies and spend the weekend doing beach things, or camping things, or cleaning out the garage things. He and I will know my ass is red (or will be after the are in bed!), but my red ass is not the central focus of the relationship. It’s a factor, though. And a pretty big one. But it’s not the only thing.

(In case that wasn’t clear, I was referring to the factor being big… not my ass.)

Long story, short: Choose men who know how to use their words and who actually listen. Communicate what you want, and communicate - clearly - what you don’t. If you’re unsure about something, that’s ok. If something comes up at a later date that you hadn’t thought about or considered, that’s ok, too. It’s not too late to talk about it. It’s never too late to talk.

Find out what their expectations are, and be realistic and honest about whether or not it’s something you really want. If it is, come to an agreement… what’s on the table, what’s off, etc. It doesn’t sound very sexy, but it is SO important. You don’t have to have a manifesto ready, but you do need to know your limits and expectations - and that can absolutely include being treated with respect at all times.

Once you’re clear, it should be pretty apparent if the guy gets it or not. And if he doesn’t? Simple. He can’t have you.

~ subgirlygirl
Funny Guys...
Posted:Oct 16, 2019 12:14 am
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2019 6:23 am

Generally Speaking.....
Posted:Oct 15, 2019 1:14 pm
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2019 4:27 pm
Generally speaking, the submissive girl has greater needs. She needs to be touched more. Talked to more. Greater attention needs to be paid to her, especially if there are rules and guidelines outside the bedroom. She needs to know that her actions matter, that the time and effort she’s putting into pleasing you actually please you. You need to check-in, touch base, reassure; be diligent with your upkeep and follow-through. If you’re not if she feels you don’t care if your directives are empty… the dynamic will die. And if the dynamic dies the submissive girl is gone.


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