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Problems with Mom..getting better 6/18/2005
When I met my bodyfiend It was the first time I had met someone
from ALT. I told my parents I was going out to a friends for
a couple of hours. I wasnt sure how they would react to my
telling them "Hey MOM! Going to met some strange guy
and have sex! Be home by 12! Bye!" I was only 19 and new
to the world of BDSM. I figured my parents would rant and
rave and call the police. But My ...
0 Comments,
1301 Views,
61 Votes
,3.38 Score
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Usually the next day 6/18/2005
I will never forget my first real girlfriend in high school,
after
I spent most of the night thinking she was asleep with my
face in her panty covered ass, and sucking her asshole.The
next morning forever changed me, I realized I do have a
female counterpart, that is a girl who is into recieving
oral sex only and lots of assworship.U see she woke me up
by sitting on my face, telling ...
0 Comments,
2240 Views,
80 Votes
,0.07 Score
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It takes time 6/6/2005
To build a relationship takes time in a "vanilla"
relationship...
- and maybe even more time in a BDSM-relationship, because
there is even more elements that shall "fit".
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I think it is importante to get to know (im my situation)
the man, before I get to know the Master.
No matter how strict you are planning to live the relationship,
you are both humans, both peoples, ...
1 Comments,
778 Views,
37 Votes
,5.01 Score
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Are feelings ruled by "old genes" ? 5/29/2005
Is the fact that humans, genetically, are animals...
- still causing troubles for us, in building a relationship,
in modern times ?
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Is it so that many of the reactions we have, comes from an
almost pre-historic instinct, and/or are genetically
“decided” or “programmed”
within us...
- often without any of us understanding that this is what
causes our ...
2 Comments,
393 Views,
14 Votes
,5.06 Score
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Friend wants bi...... 5/17/2005
I know this 24 year old girl who has some very strong bi-sexual
pull. She luvs to masterbate watching girls go down on each
other. Needs guidance but motivated. I would like to surprise
her as a gift. I am not involved with her (5 yrs ago)- so you
believe me when I would listen to her talk about girls and
going down fantasies. I have some vid of her getting off
to femonfem porn--HOT! ...
2 Comments,
219 Views,
6 Votes
,3.37 Score
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Exploring a bi relationship 5/7/2005
How does one who has been straight all of their life, initiate
a bi relationship? It seems like all of the stuff that you
learn with guys goes out the window with woman. Perhaps
i am too nieve, it is so new, and almost scary to me. Does anyone
have any hints on how a woman can connect with another woman?
5 Comments,
264 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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I'm not an expert ... 5/3/2005
I don't really have a good track record ... it seems
I trust those whom I shouldn't trust. I am very dominant,
but I'm also sensitive and romantic. I have few limits
sexually, but the ones I do have are very hard limits. One
is trust. And in expecting trustworthiness, I also give
it. I didn't come to BDSM, M/s, and D/s to see how many
women I can conquer. One woman ... the right woman ...
0 Comments,
316 Views,
13 Votes
,5.66 Score
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Baby Do you have A Hard Limit? 5/1/2005
Ok Ok, so it's a bad start to an important subject but
hey, I'm a lecturer and a Dom. What do you expect? lol
<br>
Seriously though, you need to have thought out a "Hard
Limit" list, i.e. a list of things that you simply
do not wish to participate in. It's not all that difficult
to write, and for your own sake and the sake of your Dom/me
you should have it. Remember - anything ...
1 Comments,
370 Views,
13 Votes
,4.82 Score
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How to explain subspace to another? 4/30/2005
In the begining the concept of subspace bewildered me,
indeed verbally defining the concept was near impossible.
It was almost like some secret club, everyone but me "got
it". Books talked of it, but were vague in ways that
books for a thirteen year old are when talking about kissing.
People spoke of it as if they were all speaking of going someplace
that all subs get to go... a sub heaven ...
3 Comments,
911 Views,
54 Votes
,6.74 Score
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The Prime Directive 4/13/2005
In my trainings, I was given several unshakable rules.
The first was the “Prime Directive”. (Yes, I suppose it
is an amusing co-incidence that it is a phrase akin to the
Starfleet core value, but as we know, so many perverts are
geeks…!)
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The prime directive in my D/s relationships is this:
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“The (submissive / slave) has the duty to protect the (dominant ...
3 Comments,
2855 Views,
201 Votes
,6.81 Score
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race is an issue 3/29/2005
I am a young white woman who recently started seeing a black
man and I am shocked by the reactions I have gotten from some
people. He treats me very well and I enjoy being with him
so why do some of my "friends" have a problem
with him? I have heard enough nigger jokes in the last couple
weeks to make me puke, and often they are from people who
claim not to be racist. I know some people ...
2 Comments,
130 Views,
28 Votes
,6.73 Score
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Can I ever trust again? 3/29/2005
It has been a year since I came out of a very distructive relationship.
I'd like to think that it was just a normal break up.
But the plot was to wild for a movie. Of course I didn't
know any of his diabolical activities till some time after
the relationship had ended...Now I find I can"t trust
anyone. I know deep down that they probably are being judged
unfairly, but the fears are there ...
0 Comments,
41 Views,
20 Votes
,6.57 Score
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Thank You Alt.com, For The Love Of My Life!! 3/25/2005
Greetings, My name is Ginger And I am 20 years old. For the
last two years I have been waiting with fingers crossed
for "Mr. Right." Well on the night of May 23rd
2004 I got a loving letter from a strange man. The title,
"You could have it all, My Empire of Dirt." Being
a strong fan of Music by Nine Inch Nails this gave me pause.
I opened the letter and It was from a man I would learn to ...
1 Comments,
411 Views,
11 Votes
,3.35 Score
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What about smokers? 3/17/2005
Why is it that the everyday smoker does not have his/her
option of discretely acknowledging that they have a hidden
pleasure that is a lifestyle in it self? I have not heard
a valid reason why it should not be considered a lifestyle
choice and given the ability to know whether or not someone
will match them more completely. Is there any hope of change?......
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374 Views,
10 Votes
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does it work.. of course 3/14/2005
Jim (Dominant, melj)
Wow
It is the first time i have looked at the Mag section and I
was shocked...
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I can see so many lost soul's who for whatever reason
seem to be in a pickle... negativity and lots of it...
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RELATIONSHIPS
There are many types of relationships in the alternative
scene, none are wrong or right they are only what we need,
if you want ...
3 Comments,
231 Views,
9 Votes
,4.71 Score
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Being in love and having slaves 3/14/2005
Is it possible for this to be mutually exclusive?
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I have a very dominant side, but I don't tend to express
is to partners, as I feel it is seperate from the relationship.
I'm happy with it being this way.
<br>
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Is it really possible to have the Mistress/Slave relationship
intertwined and in a 'normal' partnership, and
is it necessary, in ...
5 Comments,
444 Views,
13 Votes
,5.32 Score
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Need a woman.s advice 2/27/2005
First,
Do women like men who are hairy or shaved?
During the seventies and early eighties, it was "macho"
if you were hairy, now I hear women say they like a man who
is smooth. I see this often when gay guys are looking, but
what about women? I was hairy (being Italian), but I have
since shaved smooth, except the hair on my head)(the big
one).Second, does size matter? I hear conflicting ...
5 Comments,
253 Views,
7 Votes
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question 2/26/2005
is it alright not to want any thing like for example i was
laying in bed naked and my gf( at the time ) came over got naked
to but we didnt do any thing i mean i didnt mind cause i have
always thought as long as i get time with her im happy well
im not so sure now she said thats what she wanted and stuff
and she liked doing that well i found out that she started
to get it some where else so ...
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134 Views,
2 Votes
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Poly relationships 2/18/2005
Do poly relationships EVER work? Is there a formula to make
it work? Or is it something that others can grow into? Are
certain people cut out for poly lifestyles?
4 Comments,
316 Views,
9 Votes
,1.93 Score
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In The Beginning 1/29/2005
Many people have 2 lives. In the real world, they may be straight
ordinary people and go about their straight ordinary day.
Maybe even I am one of those people. who knows.
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In here, we can be want we want to be. When we meet others,
they only know the us that is here in this online family.
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So when and how would one incorporate the two lives without
disrupting ...
3 Comments,
276 Views,
28 Votes
,2.01 Score
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Introducing the "Lifestyle" 1/17/2005
How does one go and introduce the "lifestyle"
to a new partner? W/o scaring them off. Or does "planting
a seed work within reason.?
5 Comments,
268 Views,
17 Votes
,2.70 Score
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Question 1/14/2005
Ok, I met these girls who were working at a bondage booth
at this local sex toy convention thing, and I asked one out.
She said she'd like to go for drinks after the convention,
and even said "sure we'll go for drinks"
after I asked her later on that night "so you were jokin'
about the drinks right?". Problem is, we had to go
(the guys) towards the end of the show and she disappeared,
so ...
6 Comments,
150 Views,
14 Votes
,2.50 Score
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To Be Or Not To Be 1/12/2005
While I am fairly new to this lifestyle and to this site,
I have been approached by numerous Doms who write they can
"train me in one night."
I find this hard to believe, but then there may be some supermen
out there just waiting to train this submissive to be all
she can be.
I have a tendency to believe (and want) a more stable relationship,
starting off with a friendship, chatting, ...
3 Comments,
95 Views,
32 Votes
,8.21 Score
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Finding a Dom or Sub 1/5/2005
A place where you can have fun and possibly find what you
are looking for, is at the New York Renisance Faire.There
is the dramatic and romantic side to be satisfied here,
as well as a hugh collection of people in leather and spandex,
as well as women laced up in corsets.
I am sure amongst some of those in costume are those living
in the "alternate" lifestyle.
If you have never been ...
1 Comments,
131 Views,
7 Votes
,2.02 Score
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Hardest Relationship of all?? 12/30/2004
I am wondering if the crossdressing lifestyle is one of
the hardest of relationships to begin?? I know there are
women out there who have special interests in the TG an crossdressing
lifestyle, but it seems for the avgerage Transgender
and/or Crossdresser, its difficult to meet such a woman...
Alt.com is one of the few sites that I know of, that offer
a chance to meet someone but yet it ...
1 Comments,
158 Views,
15 Votes
,3.59 Score
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new to this 12/30/2004
Does anyone know where I can find out information or help
on being a good Domme?
3 Comments,
65 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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Begining...need advice 12/30/2004
I have been living with a man for almost 2 months now and care
for him very much. I am quite submissive by nature and I am
starting to see that he is a natural Dom type. We have great
sex, stimulating conversation, and generally get along
well with each other. My problem is that i do not know how
to start a discussion about the Dominant and submissive
rolls we are each already playing ...
9 Comments,
268 Views,
30 Votes
,4.02 Score
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Novice Dom 12/21/2004
So you're a novice Dom? Congratulations and welcome
aboard! It is always nice to greet a fellow Dom. But before
you get out them whips and start addressing every sub by
"On your knees slut!" there are a few things
I'd like to say. You may be nervous or scared. I know
it took me a couple of years before I gathered up my courage
and joined the local scene. I'd had fantasies of tying
up and ...
2 Comments,
1061 Views,
113 Votes
,8.48 Score
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What is the role of symbolism? 12/14/2004
Talk about leashes, collars and other BDSM "accessories"
has got me thinking...
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The very first time I was exposed to this concept was late
into the relationship with my first dom. I started with
an off hand comment that wearing shirt collars or necklaces
always makes me very aware of my neck. He very much liked
what he called my adventurous spirit and fiestiness. He ...
1 Comments,
188 Views,
19 Votes
,3.52 Score
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"Power Corrupts" but what about the Power Exchange? 12/13/2004
The idea that power corrupts, does it apply in D/s?
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The first thing that comes to my mind is that it shouldn't
be applicable in a D/s environment. While the quote (i believe)
refers to general power, it's usually applied in political
fields. So i was tempted to just deny it out of hand.
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But that doesn't really make sense. After all, power
is power, in ...
2 Comments,
129 Views,
18 Votes
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