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I am a married (not happily) woman who is ethically non-monogamous.. I am polyamorous, a true switch who enjoys both dominance and submission, and currently answer to 4 doms (including my primary) and 3 subs. Two of my doms are RL, the other two are online. I am not looking to add more subs, because that would not be fair to the men I currently dominate. I am also not looking to add more online doms -- I have many opportunities to do exactly that, and have met some absolutely wonderful doms who have become my good friends. I am looking to add an additional local RL dom. My primary has relocated to Florida, and we are looking for someone to take his place in our regularly scheduled sessions. While he will remain my primary -- both traveling back to Colorado on multiple occasions per year, and I will be traveling to Florida several times per year as well -- I need to maintain the schedule I have. It is part of who I am.
Both my husband and I were involved in the lifestyle for many years prior to his stroke. He was never my dom, and I always kept my doms out of our marriage. He had his playmates, and I had mine. Now I play alone, because he is disabled. I am just returning to the lifestyle after a hiatus taking care of my husband.. My husband is aware that I am playing, and I have his blessing, but I cannot host at my home -- I won't make him feel small or inadequate because he cannot play any longer, and will not flaunt that I can!
I have been in D/s and BDSM for 46 years. I enjoy a wide variety of BDSM activities. I have few limits and a number of hard limits. I do not discuss these here, as that would take up much space for the why's of what they are. I am also a very primal hunter. I tend to bite, and enjoy being bitten. Be aware, that because I rely on my instincts, you will be judged as predator, prey, or pack when we interact. If you are pack, you must prove worthy of an alpha female to be considered mate. I am also sapiosexual, and do not engage physically without first being intellectually engaged. I have two D/s BDSM groups that are educational in nature, although we have fun. I hold an online discussion once a week on a topic chosen by the groups.
I enjoy sex in all its permutations and variety. As important as physical stimulation and attraction is mental stimulation. I am sapiosexual, so don't just say "hi," let me know you have a brain and a heart. I enjoy the lively banter and flirtation as much as I enjoy the physical act of completion. Let me know you have read my profile -- tell me something about what you found interesting beyond my physical attributes. Entertain my mind, let me know what you imagine in your wildest fantasies, your world views, your views on literature, music, and art, describe what you enjoy. It will get both our juices flowing and our bodies craving more.
Imagination and description add to anticipation, which heightens both desire and pleasure. I enjoy articulate, imaginative, and illuminating repartee. The more you keep me enthralled with your mind, the more intense the physical gratification will be.
I will not just jump into bed with anyone! Please know that I need time to get to know you, how you think, and how you react to our conversational cues. You must earn my trust to enjoy my legion of talents. I like to meet over a glass of wine or other beverage -- yes, coffee (which is the nectar of the gods!) is an excellent medium over which to meet. I believe that chemistry develops through interaction, and correspondence is as important as face-to-face, but ultimately a meeting must take place. I will always respect your boundaries, and request only that you respect mine. I prefer to take a more submissive role, but am quite capable of being dominant or playing on equal footing. Please be advised that one of my RL doms will accompany me at an initial meeting for safety reasons. Once he has been satisfied that you are genuine in your intentions and that I am safe, he will allow us privacy.
I am always interested in new adventures and making new friends, and I always play safe.. I am DDF, and intend to stay that way!
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My Ideal Person:
My ideal person is a dominant male who knows the value of a strong woman. I prefer to be submissive in my sex life because the balance of my life requires me to be very dominant. I also have subs of my own, so I do not have time for more. My current subs have been with me for a very long time.
A true dominant knows how to both discipline and reward his submissive, knows the value of trust, the value of safe words, and the necessity of excellent aftercare, and above all the necessity of safe interactions -- especially starting out. . A true dominant treasures the authority provided by the submissive, knows the submissive holds all the power, and puts value in providing the needs and desires of the submissive -- taking that responsibility is the ultimate gift a dom can provide a sub. A true dominant knows the words a submissive most desires to hear are "Good girl." A dominant does not abuse his submissive without her consent, nor does he punish unnecessarily. He listens to her, allows her to express her needs, and makes certain she does not sustain damage. A good dom takes care of his possessions! A true dom knows that the gift of dominance is returned 10 fold by a submissive who has learned to trust. He will never require anything that has not been negotiated, nor violate trust or hard limits.
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